Based at Framfield Medical Centre, TFT Therapist, Val Chater uses tapping to help people overcome their fears and phobias and move on to lead successful and fulfilling lives. Through using technology such as Skype, Val is able to assist people all over the world.
Carol* came to see Val for help overcoming her fear of speaking. Before going to see Val, Carol said that she felt very anxious and fearful.
“I have many fears that limit my life and I am always very anxious. I had Selective Mutism for many years – that is an anxiety disorder related to speaking in some specific situations. I feel other anxieties; some of them very strong – all of them are related to people.
“It is like there is like a monster inside me that kills me when I need to talk and I don’t want to talk. I think I don’t want to talk because I am afraid of something.”
Carol had experienced this since she was a young child. Carol’s problems continued into her teens and adult life. Finally, she had some therapy but found herself unable to talk.
“Every time I tried to talk I felt ridiculous, stupid and that what I was saying was worthless,” says Carol. It took her a year before she said anything and then she spent another year just saying one or two sentences per session. She describes that time as “a terrible nightmare stage of life.”
When Carol heard about TFT therapy with Val, she decided to try it out. During the sessions, they tapped to break the pattern of fear, including tapping to release the pattern of anxiety absorbed and inherited from both her mother and her father. They tapped for Carol to be more calm, confident and relaxed and for her to be more heart centered (more loving and less afraid) in future relationships. Carol indicated her wish to stop running away and her intention to move forward and be more proactive.
Finally, Carol said that she felt relieved and like a massive weight had been lifted off her. Val and Carol completed the therapy by tapping to confirm and believe that it was done!
Carol noted that during the sessions she could feel the tension releasing.
“I had many insights about the connection between fears and anxieties. I found it very useful that Val was using Kinesiology to distinguish my real fears from the fears that I thought I might have and just treat the real ones… I felt a very deep relief, as if the weight over my body was all pushed out.
“I noticed some transformations in my life, such as deciding to speak more often instead of shutting up like I always do; be in social situations more often; some tension relief with people that I was afraid of; less willing to run from fearful situations. I feel deep gratitude for all the care I received from Val.”
When Val text Carol to arrange another session, she received the following reply: “I feel very well because I am talking with everybody at the moment and saying what I want to say. I don’t think I need another session! Thank you for all your wonderful work on me”.
If you have a fear of speaking or any other phobia that you would like to overcome, please contact Val on 07775 600230.
* not her real name